Are you happy or content?
* these are all my opinions. You can speak your mind in the comments as well. I won’t bash them. & I don’t want anyone to bash each other.
I didn’t realize it before, but I have had a feeling for a long while, but there is a difference between happiness, and content.
But still looking at multiple dictionaries, content and happiness seem to have similar definitions.
But If I ask you
Would you rather be content or happy?
I’m sure your answer would be happy.
Also when I was looking for the definitions of happiness. There was a graph of the times happiness was mentioned in the last 200 years. The horrifying truth was that we are using the word happy around the same amount of times as the great depression used it (I understand there are theories believing we in another great depression generation but I don’t believe that to be true). And during the times of WWI, happy was mentioned more.
Being a state of contentment would be you are secure. Secure with your finances, with your job, with your safety and family. Or the fact you are enjoying the things happening right now, material things.
My definition of happy, means you aren’t afraid to die (not trying to be morbid). But knowing what happens next and what comes after death won’t absolutely give you a heart attack. Not worrying every single second of your life. That’s being happy for me I’m not saying you have to be spiritual and you have to label yourself a certain religion or even believe in god or anything. I’m saying maybe you have to be okay with anything that happens next. That you believe everything happens for a reason, and every single thing that comes to you only makes you stronger. Yes you will have unexpected stops a long the road. but you shouldn’t mourn about them forever.
I won’t lie to you. I’m not happy. I’m not even sure I’m content most of the time. I’ve had my fair share of sadness, and episodes but I’m good. & you probably think I’m a hypocrite now, and that’s fine. If you think you are happy, or any ideas please tell me what happiness means. I’d understand your point.
Seeing the unexpected stops to happen to my family within the last year compared to stops of the last 3 years of our life. They been completely different, and seeing them, makes me want to be like them and be happy. They have had incredibly difficult pauses but they didn’t mourn about it, move on, and mourn some more. Or mourn and mourn about it and not do anything at all, like many people do.
Truthfully I’m not really sure what I would tell to you if you were okay with what happens next and sad. But I don’t think you would be both, because I don’t think being spiritual would make you sad.
Of course you should use being happy as “I am happy” or that has made me happy. As the feeling, what its meant to be. I’m not saying you have to be spiritual to be happy.
Maybe there are even 2 definitions of happy, in my mind. Maybe there is a difference between a state of happiness or being happy. I’m sorry if this has been confusing
In reference to another one of my posts ‘Your Enchanted Forest’*. I believe everyone has to take time to do some good for themselves, and have an effort to make themselves at least feel happy, we get lost in our priorities, of course they are important but your well being is too. It seems depression sneaks up when we ignore our happy needs. For me I feel good to bake and create something, read, even nap for a couple of hours.
What I’m trying to say with this whole thing is if you are feeding the need to be happy, even with the many moments you had of feeling happy. Maybe you have to be okay with your end.
I guess you can be happy and content, you can even be happy or content. And even happy (feeling), happy, and content. But don’t try to convince me that content and happy are the same, like many dictionaries.
*Your Enchanted Forest: https://sincerelyjoleeg.wordpress.com/2014/10/23/the-enchanted-forest/
Do you want be happy, happy, or content?
I really hope by your end you do find your happiness, even if its not the way I think. Everyone deserves to be happy.